Good Behavior is not Magic, It’s a Skill: The three Skills every Child Needs for Good Behavior

When you have a child who acts out and is disrespectful or disruptive, it’s easy to compare him to the so-called “good kids” who never seem to get into trouble or give their parents grief. Many people feel hopeless about the possibility of ever teaching their child to “magically” become the kind [...]

Anger as a Weapon: Does Your Child Point the Gun at You?

From young children to teens, we explain why your child is in trouble if he or she uses anger and acting out behavior to control others.
When children use anger to get what they want, it can feel for all the world like they’re pointing a loaded weapon at you. As a parent, [...]

Should you Negotiate your Childs Curfew?

There are times when your thirteen year old may seem like a seasoned litigator, and your kitchen feels like a courtroom. Kids are surprisingly adept at negotiating, and sometimes it’s hard to “beat them at their own game.” It’s important to teach kids how to negotiate because it’s a necessary life skill, [...]

Low Self Esteem in Kids Part I: Forget what you’ve Heard, It’s a Myth

Is your child struggling with low self-esteem? As a parent, it’s tough to stand by and see our children feeling like they don’t “measure up” or can’t handle things as well as their peers seem to do. Here we debunk the myth of focusing on children’s feelings at the expense of teaching [...]

Motivating the Unmotivated Child

Getting into the back-to-school routine can be hard for everyone in the house. In the morning, parents are faced with groggy kids who won’t get out of bed and get ready for school no matter how much you nag, bribe and scold. Homework time can be even worse, with nightly fights and [...]

Do You Parent with Your Wallet?

What kid doesn’t love it when Mom or Dad spends money on them? When you can afford it, buying things for your children is fun. But there’s a point where we buy things for our kids for the wrong reasons: to win their allegiance or simply to get them to stop screaming. [...]

Tim Bianchi answers question: “My son gets so angry he kicks the wall, is this normal?”

My son gets so angry when he doesn’t get his way that he kicks his walls and throws things across the room.  He is 7 and when I sent him to his room for the behavior, he laid on his bed and kicked his wall until there was hole in the drywall!  Is this a [...]

How To Help Children with their Feelings.

In order to ensure survival, the emotional structures of our brain develop first. Children “act out” of their feelings because the intellectual structures of their brain have not developed yet. Adults must help children learn how to recognize and cope with their feelings as they grow up.
1) FOCUS on them. Be attuned [...]